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November 7, 2012

The Obsession With The First Impression

Head and Shoulders sold a ton of hair product in the 90s by pushing the idea that everything hinges on the first impression.  And while that’s a great strategy for a company trying to sell dandruff shampoo, it’s probably not the best way to go about finding great company.  

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November 3, 2012

Announcing: Red Line/Brown Line

Local Long Distance:
Several years ago I was living off the Argyle Red Line stop, and dating a guy who lived in Wicker Park off the Division Blue Line stop. According to my very good friend, Google Maps, we were a measly 6 miles away. But given the absence of a direct route, impossible parking in my neighborhood, and a 72 bus that can only be described as “few and far between” – it may have well a been a long-distance relationship – so close, yet so far away.

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October 23, 2012

Table the Table

It makes sense that going out to dinner is

the activity of choice when you’re out there

dating. This is especially true in a city like

Chicago where eating out checks off the

sport, exploration and culture boxes. And it’s

not like we all have the funds of popular

dating shows, where we can rent an entire

concert hall or fly to a remote island for the

first date.

Some people think of dating as a simple

numbers game (go for volume and you’ll find quality.) But if you hang out with ten different people and

all of those initial interactions take place over dinner, it’s easy to churn out the numbers and feel like

you’re out there, but how good is the dinner table at feeding real conversation? We’d argue it’s more

about environment than numbers.

People respond and connect to how someone behaves and reacts to life, not a list of specials. It’s

even pretty cool to learn about the things that they’re not so great at – to hear about how they’ve

struggled, changed and evolved. That’s why so many relationships originate at work, at school, or

between friends. When we’re not on the prowl analyzing information to see if someone is ‘right,’ we are

able to relax into ourselves and others. It’s no longer an interview or a search. It’s just you being

yourself.

This natural need for context is what Me So Far is all about. We can’t shuttle you into a conference

room to see someone shine during a stress-filled meeting or watch someone attend to their nephew or

let you listen in on their internal dialogue while they shop. What we can do, however, is create a forum

where people are encouraged to show the more nuanced and not-immediately-obvious elements of

themselves. And once you see those interesting tidbits you can strike up a conversation that moves

quickly beyond small talk. This added context can go a long way when you’re just trying to get to know

someone and move past canned, polite conversation.

 

We’re not suggesting that meals are meaningless or not a good date idea. (We’ve been trying to get

into Girl and the Goat for months!) It’s just that it’s become the default setting for what constitutes a

good place for testing the waters with someone. In fact, you could find yourself at the dinner table with

someone who is really great for you, but because the environment is pretty limited and not entirely

flexible, it’s hard to evaluate a potential connection. This is why so many awful dating columns give

advice on how to spot the signs of compatibility in what is the very limited range of interactions that

occur over dinner dates (Did he make the reservation? Who paid? Was she rude to the waitstaff? Did

he open the door?)

When you get a glimpse into who someone is in the context of life, rather than the confines of a

restaurant, you’re more likely to keep ordering.

October 2, 2012

Me So Far is A Chicago Ideas Week Lab!

We are honored and delighted to be on the roster of labs for Chicago Ideas Week!  This CIW exclusive version of Me So Far will be open to anyone who wants partake in the format traditionally applied to our singles events.  Come ready to share a bit of yourself and listen to slideshow scrapbooks of others.  

September 12, 2012

The World’s Friendliest Bar

People often go to bars with at least some intention of meeting people. The irony is that bars are actually among the worst places to really meet people.

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